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Constant criticism

Posted by Patricia_Marie
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on Friday, 07 February 2014
Dear Patricia Marie,

My partner says he loves me, but he never stops criticising me. Whether it's my opinion on matters to do with our family, or even the political party I support, he thinks I'm always wrong.

Just recently he told me my plans on improving my status at work were not worth considering and not to bother trying to progress further. Only yesterday he called me an idiot and said I talk rubbish. He is making me feel worthless and I am at the point where I could walk away from this increasingly difficult relationship. I would be grateful for some help.

Patricia Marie says...

Your partner's intolerance suggests to me that he's a very insecure person. Having your own ideas and opinions angers him, because this represents a challenge and a threat. Your wanting to progress at work is showing that your not dependent on him to succeed in your own right, which is taking the control away from him.

Many couples have different points of view, but respect each others right to do so. This man is making you feel worthless because you are allowing him to. His offensive behaviour towards you is disrespectful, and the name calling abusive, yet, you say he loves you.

I'd like you to consider what your perception of love is, and to ask yourself, do you deserve to be treated in this way. When two people choose to share their lives together, there must be an understanding of accepting behaviour. You say you are at the point of walking away, have you made your partner aware of how his behaviour is jeopardising your relationship.

If you feel this relationship is worth saving, and only you will know this, my suggestion is for you to both attend Relate ( and have some sessions with a counsellor, or I fear this abusive relationship could become increasingly worse.

Got a dilemma, please email
Please note, while Patricia cannot respond to all emails, she does read them all.

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