Mum About Town

Emma is a freelance writer, lifestyle blogger and online marketer. When she’s not writing, she gets down with her Smalls, bigs-it-up with Him and swans around London reporting for her blog.

Which type of mother?

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on Thursday, 25 September 2014
I met someone a couple of weeks ago at a party. She (proudly) told me that she didn’t want to have children. I didn’t ask if she had a partner. She then asked me if I had children. (She didn’t ask if I had a partner). And then she asked me what type of mother I was.

Basically she had broken every rule in my small-talk handbook. That night, once safely at home away from bad cocktail drinkers and silly comments, I started to think about the different mothers I knew and how they might fit into types. The ridiculously kind souls who never shout (they do exist). Those who never admit they are wrong to their children. The ones who over-praise – their kids, the dog, even me. Not forgetting the ‘What About ME!’ mother who continually puts herself first.

But then the whole sorting these mums into types felt ALL wrong. Bad and unfair and downright horrid. So, I quickly unsorted the mums in my head and instead started to think what I should have said to her, Ms Judgemental as she questioned me.

I’m the type of mother who just tries not to overanalyse who I am’ I should have answered. ‘Because if I’m a type then so are my kids and then what a dull old world this would be.

Or – on the other hand - I could have just as easily retorted ‘the unpredictable mother’…

Juggling dads

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on Tuesday, 16 September 2014
There’s something about chatting to dads which gives all of us mums some kind of perspective.  Less domestically competitive and certainly less emotional, a dad can make any parenting challenge feel more like a game. So when I was offered interviews with a couple of well-known dads about their work/life balance*, I literally leapt at the chance in the hope that I might pick up some parenting skills at the same time.

First up was James Cracknell.  Having survived a near fatal crash, the Olympic gold medalist probably finds looking after his three smalls a bit of a breeze.  We chatted about ‘those other dads’ at the school gates, home births and the possibility of pressure on the school sports field.

The other dad I met is one of my foodie heroes.  Jason Atherton is a Michelin star chef and, having reviewed ALL of his London restaurants, I was eager to know how he runs his empire whilst juggling being a super dad.

As it turned out, both dads were pretty honest.  Parenting (of course) isn’t a piece of cake nor a row in the park. But the bottom line is being present (both in person and without an iPhone).

*Thanks to Not On The High Street for setting up these interviews for me as part of the dadpreneur campaign.

Royally sick

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on Thursday, 11 September 2014
Being sick is so dreadful.  I’m not referring to lying in bed nursing a slight temperature while sipping hot lemon and ginger tea, lazily flicking through a glossy fashion magazine.  No, the actual act of feeling sick, being sick and smelling of all that sick.

So right now my heart goes out to our Princess and her not-yet-swollen tum.

Actually my sympathy goes out to her all the more as there is only one thing much worse than puking.  It’s the fact that the ENTIRE world knows you are puking.

Pregnancies pre the 12-week threshold are notoriously kept under wrap but as the Duchess of Cambridge is toilet/bedridden, she has had, once again, to let the new baby secret out of the bag.

As far as I am concerned, morning sickness is just the beginning of that fallacy called pregnancy.  It certainly isn’t just confined to mornings as nausea can sweep over the whole day.  But this princess is suffering more than the common people’s morning sickness.  Her royal version is called Hyperemesis Gravidarum and, affecting around 15 per cent of all pregnancies, it can go as far as causing dehydration.

Either way, I don’t envy her at all.  My baby making days feel like another world ago and, while I’ve got an image in my head of the Duke holding back all that wonderful hair, I do hope she milks it enough to get though a stack of magazines and several tea runs.

Middle Age Joy

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on Thursday, 04 September 2014
I’m not SO predictable. I like to think. To fit the mould (I fight), I’d sit here and write how divine it is to have an empty house after the long weeks of summer madness.  I’d wax lyrical about the calm and quiet, adding probably that the Smalls were delighted to leave their screamer of a mother.

And then it would make sense to mention the September/back to school angle.  What a fine excuse it is for us all to readdress what we want to achieve in this next school year – plus the very tempting opportunity to snatch a fabulous new season handbag/coat/pencil case (fail to delete as you desire).

But actually my thoughts are elsewhere this week.  I’m thinking about how brilliant it is to be middle-aged. Not necessarily a thought I often have.  I’m thinking about all those advantages that little bit of age gives you: the confidence to be who you want to be and not really caring too much how you come across.  Because anyone you like is going to be totally accepting of you and the way you are.

It’s taken a while for me to get here, I must admit.  Even recently, I have been bothered enough to lose sleep over troubled friendships.  However, this summer I did the maths and worked out that we (the over 35s) don’t need to worry anymore about those god-awful, petty arguments.  All that wasted energy and anguish is meant for the school playground.

So, as far as I’m concerned, experimenting with vibrant eye shadow, forgetting the names of people’s offspring and applying military precision to your craft cupboard are more than allowed. As is sitting alone in a café wondering how it’s September already… which is what I might just do today.

Relocation; the new qualification

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on Friday, 15 August 2014
I am writing this abroad but this is not the relocation I am referring to. En route to the West Coast of the States, the Smalls and I are visiting my brother and his family in Chicago. So... if you like, I'm posing as Mum about (a different) Town for this week's blog post. And, while in the mid-west's largest city, as well as introducing our small people to a few skyscrapers, some stunning architecture and the story of the city's Great Fire, we managed to catch up with some old friends who have left London last year for the charming village of Winnetka, north of the city.

Driving up to their new home to check out their new lives, it struck me just how challenging a family relocation must be. New schools, friends and finding your feet socially is something which takes time and a huge amount of energy and – while few of us are offered the chance – I'm sure many would be daunted by the prospect.

But the challenge of uprooting, travelling and planting new roots feels to me like something we should all have to do at some point. We're always looking for more practical qualifications so, following GCSEs and A levels, could come Relocations could be the new points of difference on any CV. Surely it shows any new employer that you are adaptable, driven, open, friendly and that you've seen further than your own backyard.
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