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Patricia Marie, MBACP qualified counsellor is a member of The British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy, practising in Harley Street, Essex and Scotland. She has many years experience of dealing with domestic violence, relationship problems, bereavement, depression, addictions, post traumatic stress and many other emotional issues. If you have a dilemma, please email

I'm so scared & I can't concentrate

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on Friday, 24 January 2014
Dear Patricia Marie,

I haven't had the best start to 2014, my grandad is very unwell with Parkinson's disease and my father was rushed into hospital after Christmas with a suspected stroke due to stress. The following week my partner lost a very dear friend to cancer who was just 19 years old. I am scared at the thought of losing somebody and I am in the middle of my exams at university which I just can't concentrate on.

Thank you for your help.

Patricia Marie says...

Am not surprised you are unable to concentrate on your exams and urge you to make an appointment with The Student Services at your university, who can offer you help and support during this very difficult time. I would also recommend a visit to your GP who could refer you for some counselling which would be of great benefit to you.

Having close family who are ill can put a strain on your health and well being, and make one fearful of the future. The tragic loss of your partner's friend being so young is particularly cruel and highlighting your fear of loss. It is understandable that you are feeling so scared given the emotional circumstances.

Whilst we are unable to predict the future, we can learn to cope better with the here and now. In addition to professional help, having a good friend who can support you at this time would make a huge difference to how you feel. Sometimes just being able to talk when you want to about difficult things, can make you feel better and make things easier to cope with.

During this stressful time, whether you go for a walk, to the gym or simply enjoy a long soak in the bath, taking time out is a healthy and very important coping mechanism.

Cruse offer face to face, telephone, e.mail and web bereavement support and counselling, which may be of benefit to your partner. Cruse bereavement 0844 477 9400,

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